Including Your Friends and Family in Your Elopement
Eloping is an intimate, personal choice that allows you and your partner to focus solely on your commitment to each other. That said, some couples still want to find really meaningful ways to incorporate their friends and family into their union. Whether you’re celebrating solely as just the two of you, or only bringing a handful of your closest humans, here are some thoughtful ideas for including those who won’t be physically present when you exchange vows.
Gift Them a Stunning Photo Album
One of the sweetest ways to share your elopement day with loved ones is by gifting them a beautifully curated and designed photo album. After the adventure of your elopement, surprise your family and friends with a high-quality album filled with your favorite moments from the day.
I offer all of my couples custom-designed albums that tells the story of your elopement, from getting ready to the ceremony and all the in-between moments. Not only is this a tangible way for your loved ones to experience your elopement, but it’s a keepsake they’ll treasure forever.
Facetime Your Family Before or During Your Ceremony
While eloping can mean stepping away from traditional wedding norms, modern technology makes it easier than ever to stay connected. Facetiming your family before the ceremony starts can be a special way to involve them in the moment. You could even do a quick call right after you say “I do,” giving them a chance to share in your excitement firsthand.
If you’re eloping in a remote location, consider planning a video call once you’re back in an area with service. This gives you time to soak in the moment while also sharing it in real-time with the people who matter most to you.
Have Friends and Family Send Videos or Letters
If you’re eloping solo or with just a few witnesses, a heartfelt way to involve your loved ones is by asking them to send videos or letters that you can watch or read during the day. Have your closest friends and family record short videos congratulating you, offering marriage advice, or sharing special memories. You can set aside time before or after your ceremony to watch them together, making them feel like they were part of the day.
If you prefer something more tangible, ask them to write letters. You can take a quiet moment during your elopement to sit with your partner and read their words of love and encouragement.
Host a Post-Elopement Celebration
For couples who want the best of both worlds—an intimate elopement followed by a celebration with friends and family—consider hosting a party or casual gathering when you return. Whether it’s a backyard BBQ, a cozy dinner, or a full reception, this allows you to still celebrate with your loved ones in a relaxed, post-elopement setting.
This gathering could also be the perfect opportunity to share your elopement photos or video footage, so your guests can relive the day with you.
Create a Video Highlight Reel
You can hire a professional videographer (I have plenty of recommendations!) to create a short, emotional video that brings your family along for the day. Or, we can work together to make some highlight videos that you can use to create your own reels, TikToks, or short-form videos that will make your favorite people feel like they were right there with you.
Incorporate Personal Mementos or Heirlooms
Bringing along meaningful mementos or heirlooms is another way to keep your loved ones close during your elopement. Wearing a piece of jewelry passed down from a family member, carrying a locket with photos of your parents, or including a special family handkerchief in your bouquet are all small but significant ways to honor those important relationships.
Plan a Group Hike or Adventure Before or After Your Elopement
If you’re eloping in a destination that’s accessible to your family and friends, you can plan an adventure together before or after the ceremony. Whether it’s a group hike, picnic, or a shared outing, this is a fun way to celebrate in an informal and adventurous way that matches the spirit of your elopement.
If you’re planning an elopement and looking for an Oregon-based wedding photographer who specializes in outdoor, adventure, and micro weddings, I’d love to help capture your day. Reach out, and let’s make your elopement an unforgettable experience for both you and your loved ones!
